3 Ways to Get Through When You're Feeling Lost

compass lake header image from unsplash

I’m not going to sit here and tell you ways of how to get back on track, or tips on finding yourself again when honestly that’s so unrealistic. Whenever you feel burnout, exhaustion, or just the feeling of lost

you can’t do anything but just live in the present moment. Accept. Find the good in your day, and put whatever best foot, you have at that moment, forward. But I can tell you 3 ways to get through that feeling and make it not feel so scary anymore.

1. Take a step back

taking a step back while noting it in my passion planner

2020 was a whirlwind. No matter where you look, pretty much everyone agrees to some extent. For me, personally, it wasn’t as terrible of a year as 2019 was, but it wasn’t what I wanted it or expected it to be. All of my plans were canceled, and just pretty much every time I had something new planned or going on it got postponed or thrown off. 

Come November, I was so lost, I racked my brain for awhile beating myself up for it, but that wasn’t helping. It was making me feel worse. I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this.

I was SO glad that I had posts scheduled in advance! My website kept posting for me, but I wasn’t actually here. I wasn’t presently here, and that’s completely okay because I needed to step back and think. The much-needed me-time helped me realize, everything happens for a reason as cheesy as that sounds!

Stressing myself out with another thing isn’t what the feeling is for. It was meant for me to take that as a chance to slow down. If I got bored, lazy, procrastinated, then it would be OKAY. It’s not the end of the world, in fact, it was a blessing. It was meant for me to realize that was what I could put forward that day and I needed less, not more. We all have good days and bad days. Certainly some days I had to push myself to meet work deadlines, but then I would step right back.

There was one point, that I told myself, “I’m not going to think, ‘I have to be productive.’ I’m just going to let myself be. Whatever it may be. I would rather be happily bored than stressed and picking on myself.”

2. Do that thing you haven’t done in awhile

I used to play video games. That’s what I got my PC for, what I upgraded parts for, and why I bought Steam games for. But did you know, the majority of those games have sat there unplayed, untouched, never started, for about 3 years? I haven’t touched a video game in 4 years because it wasn’t the productive thing to do. 

This hustle culture, yes it’s good, but just like all good things, they must have moderation. Too much of a good thing is bad for you. Hearing it and seeing it everywhere on social media, do something today that your future self will thank you for, was not helping. 

After being hella productive for months on end, I felt depleted. Don’t get me wrong I still had lots to do, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I lost my “why.” I couldn’t quite understand why I was making a website anymore, what purpose was anymore. It wasn’t until I just let myself be and live and do the things I haven’t done in a while that I started to find myself again.

Read manga all day in bed, finished the series I started and never completed years ago! Watched anime that I found and looked good to watch. I did the thing. 

reading webtoon the makeup remove all day in bed

I believe this is definitely another way of doing something your future self will thank you for. 

Because slowly but surely, little puzzle pieces started to come back. I wouldn’t say I’m 100%, but I’m getting there. At least I’m writing again! And it’s honestly thanks to you guys! Somehow, through the hard work, I put in the last few months, I’ve actually have received email subscribers, people have been downloading my freebies and that makes me SO happy! I wasn’t seeing any results for weeks, and I didn’t mind it but it takes a toll on you. Now that I’m seeing a spark, it makes me feel special. 

I wouldn’t have gotten to this point without just doing the thing that I haven’t done in a while just to pass time. 

3. Shifting perspective

totoro in my passion planner

During this time I made plenty of lists, but what helped me most was writing down the best thing that happened that day. And some days it felt impossible to find good in that day, but I strived to do it daily. 

If I couldn’t think of a good thing, I would try to think of something I did for myself that day and would write that down first. I would continue to think about it, and most of the time the thing I did for myself had some aspect of it that I felt was the best part of my day. Small wins are still wins. There is no task that is too small. 

A good example of something I did for myself would be:

  • Taking a shower
  • Doing a full skincare routine
  • Making myself some avocado toast

All these things take time and multiple steps to do, and a small sense of happiness is still happiness, is it not? Adding small shifts helps make big changes.

Wrapping it up

Needless to say, staying present is a huge message under each way I listed. Honestly, 2019-me could learn a thing or two from my current me. It’s funny how life works. 

Focusing on getting over feeling lost, burnout, exhaustion, etc. isn’t really getting over it. You can’t plan for it. It’s not really a checklist type of thing. That’s not how it works. You can’t plan for it or put a deadline on it. All you can do is constantly work through it.

You need to trust yourself, if not in a higher power. Accept what is and do what’s best for you within that moment whatever it may be. 

Find the good things in each and every day, and trust me I know how hard it is some days, but this is a must. It really helps change the narrative you’re telling yourself, and the perspective you have on the situation. 

And lastly, it just takes time. Cliche, but it’s true. You’ll get there I know you will.

Question of the Day

How are you? Let me know in the comments section down below. :)

3 ways to get through when you're feeling lost pinterest pin

0 comments